Unit 8. Life changes. The two of you are in love and have made the exciting announcement that you are going to get married. Suddenly you are overwhelmed with the idea that you have a wedding to plan. There are many questions to ask as you begin planning your wedding. Wedding Date and Venues. It is important to set a wedding date before you move forward with many plans. Discuss a date with your fiancee and make preliminary decisions about where you want to hold the wedding and reception. Budget. Set an overall budget that you will use for the entire wedding.
Sit down for a budget discussion with your fiance and your parents if they are contributing financially. It is crucial to set a budget and stick to it. You do not want to start your marriage in debt. Set aside an amount for an emergency fund in case an item or service costs more than you planned in your budget. Write down a list of specific areas to include in your budget. Create areas in the budget such as wedding gown, church, flowers, reception, paper goods, postage and decorations. Be reasonable. Types. Decide what type of wedding you want to have.
There are many choices. Traditional, outdoor, formal, informal, country garden, costume, themed or extreme, to name a few. Now is also the time to decide how many guests will be invited to the ceremony and reception. Match the guest list and necessary amount of reception foods to your budget. The type of wedding will determine the wedding gown style as well as the clothing of the wedding party. The last month is a whirlwind of activity. You will confirm the menu with the caterer or family members. Clothing will be altered, shoes and necessary items purchased.
Invitations must be addressed and mailed out. Marriage preparatory classes attended, ceremony and vow wording completed. Gifts purchased for the wedding party. Guest book purchased. Ceremony and reception musicians should be booked and confirmed. Confirm the shared responsibilities you’ve arranged with the maid of honor and best man to help you with. Tie up all the loose ends and keep consulting the lists and plans you have made to have a memorable wedding day. Unit 9. In time. We all fear time! It has become so much of a second-nature that we don’t even realize it.
We never want to be late anywhere, we don’t want to waste time, we are always looking at the clock to see if we have enough of it, and we often wish we had more hours in the day. Living with this fear of time is not healthy, physically or mentally. Sometimes, we genuinely have to rush things or worry about time because of the gravity of the situation, but for all the other times, a lot of small things that we do can lead us to unnecessary worries. An unhurried sense of time is in itself a form of wealth. ~ Bonnie Friedman Imagine the situation. You are waiting for a bus.
You know that it is supposed to be there in 20 minutes but you keep looking at your watch every few minutes to see what time it is. Why? You know very well that you cannot make the bus come sooner by looking at your watch again and again. This incessant time-tracking – when we cannot do anything to make things go faster – doesn’t do us any good except making us worry and waste our time. We keep looking at the time and miss out on a lot of other things that we could do instead. The future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is. C. S. Lewis If you are stuck in a traffic jam, getting frustrated never makes the other cars go any faster. The traffic would free up in its own time, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, so there is zero value in getting all excited and wasting your energy. Its better instead to spend that wait time doing something that will make you feel better. Listen to your favorite music, talk to a friend or anything else that you enjoy. This will help you stop fearing these uncontrollable times and might even make you look forward to them. Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans” ~ John Lennon Always set aside some extra time in case something unexpected happens. For example, if you know your drive to destination is 20 minutes, it won’t hurt to think of it as 25 minutes. This will give you a cushion in case the traffic is bad or you have to stop for something or if you get lost. Cushion time helps reduce panic and the fear of being late. If you don’t get to use it, that’s even better because you get extra 5 minutes that you can use to get comfortable. Take time out for yourself.
Take 5 or 10 minutes out of your schedule and just spend that time alone doing nothing. It can be a few minutes before you go to bed, in the morning or any other time that you can get. This “self” time helps you to reconnect with yourself. It makes you realize that you don’t always have to run after time – sometimes, time is a friend whose company you can enjoy. Unit 10. All sorts. Stereotypes are, unfortunately, everywhere we look. From mass media to common conversation, people’s assumptions about certain races, religions, ethnic groups and genders have become so commonplace that many don’t even realize they are stereotyping someone.
If you are the victim of a stereotype, overcoming it can be difficult. Here are some tips to help you ignore stereotyping. In today’s society, there are so many different cultures and beliefs and sometimes people have a hard time adapting to other cultures without being a legalist, judgmental or stereotyping a group without really getting to know them. There are some things that a person can do to avoid stereotyping people in a bad way. Realize that this world is made up of all kind of people and because of this it makes the world a more interesting place to live in.
Realize “the need” to respect others the same as you require and demand respect from others for who you are and what you believe. Treat people like you desire to be treated. You as an adult want to be fully persuaded in your own mind to decide what you desire to believe. Therefore, to respect other people means to allow them as well to be fully persuaded in their own minds in what they decide to believe in life. Understand that respecting other people’s beliefs and cultures does not mean that you have to embrace or submit to someone else’s beliefs, customs and ways of doing things.
By all means, stick to what you truly and sincerely believe in your own heart and mind. It’s important to be “real” and “sincere” about what you believe. Realize that to dislike or stereotype an “entire” group of people simply because you’ve had a bad experience with one or more people within that culture makes no sense at all. People in every culture are still yet different people and even within a culture of people, they don’t always believe the same. Therefore, it’s not fair to make an assumption about an entire group of people or even an individual without getting all of the facts in order to really make a quality decision.
Sometimes, what we perceive to be true is not always true. Things are not always what they appear to be. Realize that it is more than okay to share your beliefs with others. You have a strong conviction about your beliefs so it’s normal to want to share, but ultimately the person you are sharing with has to make the final decision about what they will believe. If they decide not to believe as you believe, realize that it is their prerogative. If any of us are wrong about anything, we each “individually” will have to give account in the end personally for wrongdoings.
Unit 11. Picture stories. The perfect place to showcase and protect your precious family photos, heirlooms, and memories, a heritage scrapbook album is wonderful way to document your family’s history and create a lasting gift for future generations. People are curious to know where they come from and whom they belong to. It is very desirable to assemble materials to craft a heritage album that not only contains old photos but also information about the family history, culture, and the traditions of one’s ancestors not easily captured in photographs.
While it may seem a daunting task when faced with boxes of dusty old photos, scrapbooking is actually both fun and more easy than you might think. Begin your heritage scrapbook project by gathering together as many photographs as possible. These photos don’t necessarily need to have people in them – pictures of old houses, automobiles, and towns are great for adding historical interest to a family history scrapbook. Family mementos such as birth and marriage certificates, report cards, old letters, family recipes, clothing items, and a lock of hair can also add interest to a family history scrapbook.
Select a theme for the scrapbook, including colors. For a wedding scrapbook you will probably want to use the color scheme that was used by the bride. Likewise, to showcase photos and memorabilia of a school event, you may want to use the school colors. On the other hand, a mother’s day scrapbook, for example, may take its color scheme from a favorite flower. The ideas are endless. Have fun. Scrapbooking is a creative process that will bring the creator hours of pleasure, and it will result in a family keepsake that will help establish the strong roots of your family and carry on your family heritage for generations.
Unit 12. Money matters. Being in debt can make you worry, causing you to lose sleep, fight with your loved ones and start to feel that your life will never improve. There are easy things you can do to help you quickly lower your debt obligations. The sense of freedom may inspire you to do everything you can to live a lifestyle where you are debt-free or keep the debt manageable. Once you enjoy time without all the debt and the stress that comes with it, you will never want to go back to that burdensome, out-of-control feeling.
Keep track of your spending so you can see where your money goes, then cut out as many nonessential items as you can. Look for ways to be thrifty. You can pack your lunch instead of eating out, use coupons at stores and restaurants, opt for less costly brands when shopping or get your news online rather than buying a daily paper. Using cash instead of credit helps keep you aware of your spending. You will find it easier to stick to your budget if you pay cash and carry only the amount of cash you need.
If you are carrying balances on your credit cards, paying cash helps you get out of debt faster, since you will not increase the amount you owe. Getting a part-time job while you are reducing your debt is an excellent way to pay bills off quickly. Part-time income even for just a few months will lower the debt and your stress level. Delivering pizzas or newspapers, babysitting or being a telemarketer are all part-time jobs that are readily available and will help you reduce your debt and build your savings.